When you do this, it has to be they are constantly using you. If there have been times you have leaned on them, and they gave more to you than you gave to them, it’s now your turn to be the rock. You cannot just use someone and then not be there when they need you. Well, you can, but that just makes you an asshole!
“Too often we judge other groups by their worst examples, while judging ourselves by our best intentions.” George W. Bush
If you had to tell someone your identity, what would you say? Would it be linked to your job, your passions? Or an incident that happen in the past? Well that might not be correct.