By definition, hope means “a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.” Nothing in the definition of hope says anything about doing anything for a certain thing to happen. So if you think you can home for a desire expectation and do nothing to achieve that expectation, then hope is not a good thing.
When you do this, it has to be they are constantly using you. If there have been times you have leaned on them, and they gave more to you than you gave to them, it’s now your turn to be the rock. You cannot just use someone and then not be there when they need you. Well, you can, but that just makes you an asshole!
Statistics don’t matter until you are one